I just spent the last 30 minutes walking around with my baby girl in the sling lulling her to sleep. She was tired, but of course, fighting sleep, so I pulled out the sling. As soon as I put her in, she curled up her little body and laid her head on my chest. I couldn’t help but relish these few moments of quiet cuddle time with my sweet little girl. Her eyes quickly grew heavy and I laid her on the bed sound asleep. Now that she’s walking and moving more, she doesn’t need as much of this time with me, and though I love watching her grow, I also miss those early days. When she was a baby, she barely spent any of her time away from me. She spent her waking hours playing with me, usually in my arms, and she spent her sleeping hours in the wrap or snuggly or sling. She would cry or only sleep a very short time if I put her down, so I kept her close. It felt so natural and instinctual to always have her near me, and I truly missed her when she was away from me. I loved spending all this time bonding and meeting her need for physical affection. Sure, sometimes it’s inconvenient to have to put her to sleep, but with all the running around we do and with all the independence she gains on a daily basis, I’d rather focus on how much I treasure these moments we spend together. Soon enough she won’t want me to put her to sleep, and this cuddle time will only be a memory. So, I’m glad to hold onto to it for a little longer…
Monday, November 12, 2007
Elle may be petite, but what she lacks in size, she certainly makes up for in aggression. Yes, I have that child, the one who is always in other kids’ faces. I’ve read all the books that say children this age are only interested in parallel play, but Elle is much more interested in other children. She doesn’t just want to play next to them; she wants to play with them (and sometimes that means grabbing their faces or pulling on their limbs). Elle loves music, so the other day, we took her to a sing-along outside Pottery Barn Kids. She, of course, wanted to run around with all the kids twice her size and dance (bounce up and down and spin in circles). I was trying my best to chase her and keep her from coming in direct contact with other kids, while at the same time letting her have fun, but at one point, she got away from me and went right up to a little girl, who looked about 4, and pushed the girl in the stomach (not hard, since she’s so little, but it was a push nonetheless). I quickly grabbed Elle and apologized to the little girl. She just stared at Elle with a look of complete disbelief. I’m sure she was shocked that this baby half her size would dare to even touch her. The girl just kept staring, so I apologized again and brought Elle back to where we were sitting. I am not a very aggressive or even super-outgoing person, so it still amazes me that my little girl can act this way. No matter how many times I explain “being gentle” to her, she seems to have a hard time getting the concept (and trust me, I explain it to her many, many times a day, since I watch a little boy who is only 7 months). I know she’s only 13 months, and it’s hard for her to understand, but I keep wondering if she will ever be more gentle to other kids, if I will ever be able to stand back and just let her play (rather than playing defense for the other kids in her path!). And I know that a lot of kids go through a similar stage; I think it just seems worse to me sometimes because usually Elle is only around babies who are younger than her. Kyle keeps telling me how great it is that she’s so tough (she rarely cries when she falls or gets hurt), and he just knows she’ll make a great point guard on the basketball team. I guess we’ll just have to wait and see (and keep reminding her and reminding and reminding her to “be gentle”). I don’t think the 4-year-old girl minded too much. After a few minutes, she marched right up to Elle, smiled at her, and pulled her shirt over her head again and again. In a few years, I’m sure I’ll have to work on that behavior too!
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She’s understanding a lot more of what we say and has even started to say a few words, although we can’t always get her to say them on command. She has a baby doll that we’ve been encouraging her to play with as a distraction from Sam (the 5-month-old boy that I watch during the week), so she’s started saying “baby,” and she loves to play “gently” with the doll. And by that I mean that she loves to body slam it on the ground and bite its head and jump on top of it. She’s really learning a lot from my lessons on being “gentle” to other babies. She also says “bye-bye” to Sam and his mom, Tracy, when they leave for the day and she waves backwards (again, we can’t get her to do this every time). She still says “dada” and LOVES to play with my phone and look at his picture, since he’s the background. She’ll open it up and say “dada”, then close it and open it again and say “dada”. She finally really started saying “mama” this month, and it’s soo sweet, although she still has some major separation anxiety issues. We left her with a babysitter recently, and we told the babysitter to call if she was crying and wouldn’t settle down. So, after less than two hours, the babysitter called and said we should probably come home. Apparently, Elle had been crying basically the entire time we were gone, not top-of-the-lungs screaming, but crying and whimpering the whole two hours. The babysitter tried taking her next door to play with Peyton, who is the same age, but she said Elle would just crawl away from him and towards the door. Then, she’d sit at the window near the door and say, “mama, mama, mama”. She said she tried everything she could think of to make her happy, but it didn’t work, and she did this same thing at home too. Talk about making me feel guilty! It seems Elle’s only other “friend” besides Kyle and I is Sam’s mother, Tracy. She gets excited to see Tracy every day when she picks up Sam, and even played at Tracy’s house without us for a whole two hours without crying. We keep telling Tracy that if we ever have to go somewhere important, we’re going to hire her as our babysitter. She has also started to hear the word “no” this month, although she thinks it’s funny. We tell her “no” when she goes to touch the TV, since it’s one of the only things she can’t touch downstairs, and she turns around to look at us and of course continues to touch it. So, we walk over and move her away from it to play with something else, and she just laughs and crawls right back towards the TV. What a fun game for her!
Other than walking and talking, Elle is still a picky eater, preferring avocados, green beans, popsicles, and all forms of carbs (mashed potatoes, grits, stuffing, etc.) over most anything else. She doesn’t really like fruit, although I can usually get her to eat some bananas, and she still loves to nurse (so, I know weaning is going to be really hard!). She’s still plays kind of rough with other babies, and I’m not sure why. She tries to get on top of them and pushes them over and grabs at faces. I guess we need to wait a while to give her a brother or sister! She now has 5, almost 6, teeth and has been biting on everything recently. She even tried to bite the tile floor the other day and constantly tries to bite the couch and my arm. She’s just so desperate for her teeth to break through. She also loves to clap and will do so anytime someone says “yay” or if she hears people clapping on TV. Whenever she says a word, like “baby”, I always tell her “good job” and she usually claps for herself. She often lets go of the table or whatever she’s using to help herself stand so she can clap. She also loves to try and copy anything we do, so she clicks her tongue (see the video) and does some other tricks in her attempts to mimic us.
We’ve been trying to take more videos of her, since we didn’t think to do that in the beginning, and especially since we got a new camera that takes better videos. So, I’ll be posting those periodically.
Thursday, July 19, 2007
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